How to Keep Yourself Motivated

A champion needs a motivation above and beyond winning.

– Pat Riley

Admit it. There are times when we lack motivation for work, for pursuing something we have in mind, and even just for getting up in the morning. Being able to motivate ourselves is part of having high EQ, and we all know how important Emotional Intelligence is in our lives. Without it, multifaceted success is difficult to achieve.

It’s like a match that you need to start a fire. It’s like a seed that you need to start growing a plant. Whether you realize it or not, you need motivation in your life to keep growing and making progress.

As an Emotional Intelligence specialist, I want all of us to keep ourselves motivated. I am sharing this blog article with you to help you motivate yourself. And when you already achieved that, you can also share this to others and motivated them as well. So, without further ado, here are the things you need to know to keep yourself motivated:

  1. Remind yourself of your goals. Create D.R.E.A.M. goals – Determined, Remarkable, Ended, Agenda-Based, Monitored. Remind yourself of your goals frequently. I recommend reviewing your goals at least every day and more frequently whenever you feel down or hopeless. It will help you remember why you started in the first place. A Vision Board, or a cork board with a collage of your dreams and goals is a great way source of motivation.
  2. Connect with your “Why”? Make a list of reasons why you want to achieve your goals. These reasons may be your family, friends, or community. Whoever or whatever they are, list them down. Sometimes we must create reasons to start doing something. Constantly remind yourself why this is important to you and make it a habit to look at this list every once in awhile.
  3. Reward yourself. Yes, give yourself rewards! It can be material rewards or a trip you want or a concert you want to attend. You deserve anything in the world for all the goodness and hard work you’ve done. Just remember not to always reward yourself because this might not result in motivation if it becomes an expectation. You’ll lose the essence of rewards if you overdo it.
  4. Have a good circle of friends. A network that will support and motivate you is one thing you need to keep yourself motivated. They will be there to lift your mood when you’re feeling down and tell you when to go and when they disagree. In Dream Life Tribe, our group will be there to support you whether you are thinking of building a new house, investing on something, or having thoughts on starting a business. Join us now for the motivation you need in your life.
  5. Read motivational stories or quotes. Believe it or not, reading motivational material can motivate you in one way or another. People get to be inspired by something they find to be “relatable” or something that they find heartwarming. Go find the right content for you to help with the daily motivation you need. Connect with us at Real Dream Life on Facebook for daily inspirational and informative quotes!
  6. Get rid of all distractions. Do not ever let distractions win. Focus on the task at hand and remove all distractions that get in your way. Distractions come in many forms… financial distress, relationship challenges, work-related conflict, stress and much more. So, beware of the shiny object! If you can’t get rid of them, recognize them for what they are, manage them and then get back on track!
  7. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s the last but not the least. If you think you are pushing yourself too hard, then take a break. If you are getting sick of thinking how you should get things done, then do it step by step.
    Always keep in mind that success doesn’t come overnight and you will certainly encounter setbacks in achieving your goals. But if you think that you are experiencing too many struggles, it is time to relax. Read a book. Drink a cup of coffee. It may just take you an hour of rest to finally think of something brilliant that will overcome the challenge you are facing.

With all the tips I included above, I hope it helps you find the motivation to get going. Keeping yourself motivated may not be an easy process for some but each step can be a big help in achieving the success you want

Do you have any questions, suggestions, or insights? Don’t hesitate to comment below!

Until our next blog!

– Rhonda

 

 

 

 

Do You Have Empathy?

Empathy.

It is a seven-letter word that means feeling another person’s emotions. It’s basically knowing what the other person is feeling. Putting yourself into other people’s shoes, as they say. It is one of the fundamental concepts of EQ or Emotional Intelligence. How many people have it?

In this short blog, I’ll share some signs that indicate whether you have empathic abilities or not.  Think of these as a roadmap. Strengthening these areas can help you improve your empathy towards other people while raising your own emotional intelligence (EQ).

Why does it matter? Empathy is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence. We know that high EQ individuals often earn more money, are more successful, are better communicators, have better relationships, are better leaders and are generally happier. Consider these areas and they improving your empathy could help improve your life, decision-making and happiness.

You have empathic abilities if:

  • You are highly sensitive
  • You have a big heart for others
  • You absorb other people’s feelings
  • You are highly intuitive
  • You are introverted
  • You can’t watch an emotional movie without crying
  • You don’t want to see other people getting hurt
  • You are drawn to healing of other people
  • You love animals, nature, and all living things
  • You need some alone-time or solitude
  • You are a daydreamer
  • You are understanding
  • You are always a target for energy vampires, or those who drain other people’s energy
  • You don’t want to get imprisoned by someone or something
  • You listen to everyone
  • You are a trustworthy person
  • You are open to new ideas

If you have more than half of the mentioned traits and characteristics, then it can be concluded that you have empathic abilities and this is one key area of EQ that may be a strength for you. If not, try using this list as a roadmap. Start by understanding your own feelings and then work on becoming more sensitive to what others are feeling.

Stay tuned for more blogs about Emotional Intelligence or EQ.

– Rhonda

 

References:

https://www.conovercompany.com/empathy-the-cornerstone-of-emotional-intelligence/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201602/10-traits-empathic-people-share

http://themindunleashed.com/2013/10/30-traits-of-empath.html

 

MOTIVATION 101

What is Motivation?

In general, motivation is the desire or willingness of a person to do something. It is a psychological state wherein you are goal-oriented, have self-fulfillment, and have the desire to improve the quality of your life. Motivation is the result of your eagerness to achieve something. Are you aiming for success? Are you motivated? Continue reading for a Dream Life Journey on Motivation.

Sources of Motivation

What drives you? This question is short and simple. For someone who has a family, maybe his/her motivation is parents, siblings, kids or spouse. For someone who is studying, maybe high grades is the driving force. A working person’s inspiration can be pay incentives. Motivation, drive, inspiration, incentive…it may come in many different terms but these words describe motivation that revolves around two things – NEEDS and WANTS.

There are different types of needs. According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, there are five:

1) Physiological Needs, or the needs of the body: food, water, breathing, clothing, shelter, and sex. These are the things we humans cannot live without.

2) Safety Needs, which include personal security, financial security, and health. After achieving physiological needs, we need to satisfy our own securities.

3) Love and Belonging Needs. This type of need is so important because as the quote says “No man is an island.” We feel the need to belong, to love and to be loved. We have the urge to feel that we are part of a whole.

4) Esteem Needs, which include self-esteem and self-respect. This type explains why it is normal for us to desire attention, fame, status, recognition, independence, strength, and of course, respect, both from others and ourselves.

5) Self-Actualization. This need is realizing a person’s full potential. This may not mean spiritually reaching the peak of your potential. Although for some, it may. Each one of us has different purpose, so this type of need has different meanings for people.

These needs are what keep us moving. We are humans. We are not constant and at different times we may need different things. When we are still babies, all we need is food, love, and care from our parents. As we grow older, we thirst for joy, knowledge, attention, and more. Our needs change and we cannot alter that; for change is inevitable. But, it is this need that can be a driving motivation for us.

Another thing that keeps people motivated is our wants. This differs to our needs as wants are the things we just desire to have but do not necessarily need. We need food but we want the latest smartphone model. See the difference? This concept is easy to understand because we face this everyday in real life. Also, remember that the needs of others can be wants to some and the wants of others can be needs to some. Wants keep us motivated because as people, it is human nature for us to do everything we can to achieve those things we deeply desire.

Motivation as a Key to Success

Daniel Goleman, the American psychologist who developed the concept of Emotional Intelligence in the 90s, pinpointed the 4 elements that make up motivation. These are:

  • Our personal drive to improve and achieve. To be called motivated, we have to have the mindset of achieving something and improving ourselves. It is the first step of success- proper mindset. Without this thinking, we cannot be successful in life.
  • Commitment to our goals. One answer to the question How to be successful?” is that you must be committed to your goals. By developing a fierce dedication, you let nobody stop you from achieving these goals. Shift by thinking of each hindrance as a challenge, and not a factor for you to stop reaching moving forward. When you honestly consider yourself as someone committed to his/her goals, then you are truly motivated.
  • Initiative, or readiness to act on opportunities, as well as optimism. No matter how big or small the opportunity is, grab it. Small opportunities might be your stepping stone to success. Big opportunities, needless to say, are a huge boost to your life in general. Moreover, positivity is also a secret to success and motivation. Surely, you are going to encounter a lot of problems, issues, and troubles along the way. Face each of them with a big smile on your face and say, “Challenge me.” You will find yourself motivated to continue merrily on your way.
  • Resilience. As mentioned previously, you are going to face a lot of challenges while aiming for success. If you failed on the first try, do not be afraid to start again. Recover from any  damage and rebuild yourself. Fall once, stand up twice. Motivated people have that as their motto. Make it as yours, too.

From all the elements mentioned above, would you consider yourself a motivated person? Do you agree that Motivation is a Key to Success?

Why is it important to be motivated?

You will notice that some people are highly motivated while others lack enthusiasm. Which one are you? If you are the type of person who does things eagerly, then you are a highly-motivated individual and you should continue on this path. However, if you are the type of person who has no enthusiasm and finds yourself avoiding key tasks, then you may lack motivation.

Have you noticed that many people seem so half-hearted when they are working, studying or just performing routine activities. It may mean two things – they are not happy with what they are doing, or they are not motivated. For many, the issue may be their lack of motivation. In the workplace, decreased productivity is also a sign that motivation is missing. But why does it matter? So, why is it important to be motivated?

Motivation is a building block of Emotional Intelligence, or a high Emotional Quotient (EQ). Emotional Intelligence is the extent to which we are self-aware, can self-manage, can motivate ourselves, can express empathy, and possess social skills. Take note of the phrase, “can motivate ourselves.” Can you? At times, we look outside ourselves for motivation when true motivation comes from within.

Research indicates EQ can predict the success of a person more consistently than IQ can. In other words, your success is so much more than knowledge. Knowledge is a plus but your emotional skills can lead you to success and make the difference in your life. Just like the quote says, “IQ can get you a job, but EQ can give you a promotion.”

Motivation is important in identifying your goals. Goals are the result of a desire for change. Creating goals requires motivation. Motivation is what sparks your interest. It opens up your mind to change. It is the fuel source that powers your desire to achieve your goals.

Without motivation, positive change does not happen. You can’t make a great things happen in your life by approaching things half-heartedly. The only way to create something big, to build something brilliant, to construct something unforgettable, is to do it with enthusiasm. Reflect on your life. I would imagine the best things that have occurred are those where you were overflowing with motivation!

Motivation sets apart a goal and an action. Let’s say, you already have goals. So what? A goal cannot be completed without actually fulfilling it. Let motivation kick in and start bringing that goal to life! Success can never be achieved by just dreaming. You have to work at it with motivation and commitment.

Need to break through hindrances? Turn up your motivation to make progress. Motivation does not just help in creating the plan and taking action, but also in fighting through those barriers that are sure to surface. Every success journey is fraught with difficulties. Having motivation will help you overcome these difficulties.

Consistency is the key. If you want to create sustained success, be consistent. If you have already reached a high-level of success, how sure are you that you will remain there? Motivation is a key source of the consistency needed to have long-term success.

If your desire is to create sustainable success, reflect on your level of motivation. It could be the missing key to your success.

Let’s end with this quote from Zig Ziglar…

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing- that’s why we recommend it daily.”

I hope I have shared enough for you to work on being motivated! Stay tuned for our next blog on Ways to Get Motivated.”

Share your questions, opinions, suggestions, and insights below. I would love to read and respond.

Rhonda

 

References:

https://joannewellington.wordpress.com/2011/04/17/%C2%A0according-to-maslow-human-beings-have-different-types-of-needs/

https://blogs.oracle.com/jobsatoracle/motivation:-a-key-component-of-emotional-intelligence

https://sites.google.com/site/howscholarsdefinemotivation/

 

What is Emotional Intelligence and Why is it so Important?

It is almost certain that you have heard of Emotional Quotient, EQ, and Emotional Intelligence before, but have you ever asked yourself if you are Emotionally Intelligent? If you have, do you know why it is so important? In this blog article, I will share more about emotional intelligence and its importance to every person, every workplace, every society, and even to the whole world.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

According to psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer, emotional intelligence is “the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.” In layman’s terms, it is the extent to which we are self-aware (able to recognize and understand our emotions), can self-manage (able to adapt and control our emotions and reactions), can motivate ourselves (taking the right actions to achieve a goal), can express empathy for other people, and possess social skills (ability to build positive relationships with others).

Emotional intelligence is measured through standardized tests and the result of these tests is called the emotional quotient (EQ). The higher your EQ is, the better. However, unlike the intelligence quotient (IQ) which it often fixed by the time you reach a certain age, most scholars and psychologists believe that EQ is malleable and can be enhanced and learned.

Why is emotional intelligence important?

EQ may not be as famous as IQ,  yet many experts deem it as more important than IQ. Why? Studies show EQ is a better predictor of success, quality of relationships, and happiness of a person. It is evident everywhere and is critical in all aspects of life. Have you ever heard someone making statements like these: “Wow, what a positive person! He will surely achieve something great in life!” or “She is very caring and sociable. She is such a great boss.” These comments illustrate that when a person has high EQ (even when the person does not know it), people believe that the person will likely be successful. So, why is EQ important to everyone?

  1. EQ is absolutely an important part of forming, developing, maintaining, and enhancing personal relationships with others. It is undeniable that people who know how to build positive relationships with other people will most likely be successful in their fields. Workers with high EQ can work harmoniously in teams and adjust to changes. No matter how intelligent you are, if you have low emotional intelligence, you are unlikely to succeed or at the very least it will be very difficult. However, take comfort in knowing that you can still improve your EQ skills.
  2. Being aware of oneself means being able to handle constructive criticisms. You would probably agree that there is no perfect person in the world and in everything we do, the criticism of others helps us achieve and advance. If you have high EQ, you are self-aware, meaning you understand your strengths, admit your weaknesses, and know how your actions will affect other people surrounding you. Your high EQ allows you to take these criticisms as an opportunity to improve your performance. This is a crucial part of working in an environment with many stakeholders.
  3. Self-motivated people can inspire everyone. When a person is self-motivated, they can often motivate others just by their actions. A self-motivated person is someone who is optimistic and is driven by what really matters to him/her. Who would not want a self-motivated person around, right? Motivation is contagious and a highly-motivated household, workplace, or society will repeatedly outperform non-motivated ones. Low-motivation may be a sign that your emotional quotient is low in one or more of the key EQ areas as discussed above.
  4. EQ makes the world genuine. People with a high Emotional Quotient have compassion that allows them to connect with others on an “emotional level.” If a person is able to empathize with others, then he/she will work genuinely and attend to others’ needs with compassion and care; even during times of challenge.
  5. Having high EQ means being able to control yourself in all situations. Your fellow employee shouts at you angrily for some unknown reason. Given this scenario, would you be able to control your emotions and not act the same way he did? You see, EQ is connected to how we control both our positive and our negative emotions. Think back to some of the decisions in your life you are not proud of. Ask yourself how many of them relate to a lack of self-control or a lack of impulse control?

Have you been enlightened about what Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Quotient are? Do you agree that it is more important than being “book-intelligent” or having a high IQ? Can you see why EQ is the key to success? Now ask yourself, are you an emotionally intelligent person? If the answer is yes, you are on the right track! Continue along this path, strengthening your EQ skills as you go, and you could be well on your way to success. If your answer is no, do not worry. Emotional intelligence is a set of skills you can improve with focus and a sound strategy. Regardless of where you are today, you cannot go wrong investing in yourself and improving your emotional intelligence skills.

What are your thoughts? Please share it with us by leaving a response below and we will be happy to respond! Thank you!

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Rhonda

 

References:

https://web.sonoma.edu/users/s/swijtink/teaching/philosophy_101/paper1/goleman.htm

http://www.diffen.com/difference/EQ_vs_IQ

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/245755

http://www.psych.toronto.edu/users/reingold/courses/intelligence/cache/testing_ei.htm